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Monday, March 26, 2007

The most wonderful thing happened to me...

As some of you know, I'm going through a divorce and so things are very different for me now. I no longer spend as much time with my kids as I used to, and it hasn't been easy, but it has really been a learning experience. I wouldn't say I used to take my children for granted because that wasn't the case, but as trite as it sounds, absence does make the heart grow fonder, and I make the most of the time I spend with them.

Because of the divorce, money has been tight. I'm hoping things will be a bit better when things are finally through, but there was something that I really wanted to do for the kids, and that's buy them some bikes! All three of them!

Spring is here and they like the outdoors. I was hoping things would be settled by now, considering they started in September, but they're still dragging on. Here's the thing; I've been saving up a few dollars every opportunity I got and I finally saved enough to get them the bikes, so today I did it. I only had my littlest buddy today, the six year old, and we went and picked one out. He even picked up the requisite helmet, knee and elbow pads, "Cars" theme, to go along with his bike. When we left the store and he finally sat on his bike and peddled away, you should have seen the look on his face! He looked like he was on top of the world, paddling as fast as his little legs could manage, with a grin from ear to ear and he kept thanking me for this! My heart melted.

I felt like saying, "Buddy, you deserve so much more! You deserve the world and I want to give it to you!" Instead, I said, "I'm so glad you like it and I can't wait for you to come back." I smiled and thought the moment was a gift from the Lord. This isn't his first bike, mind you. but the original bike was a toddler bike and he hasn't been on it since last summer. This bike is the "real thing" and he knew it.

Finally, when I was to drop him off, back to his mom, he said, "you rock, dad!"

I know these moments won't last forever; you know what I mean, when your kids think you could heal their boo boos, find the things they lost, tackle closet monsters single handedly, etc... Eventually, they figure out that us dads have limitations, but I do want to freeze these moments, stretch them as long as I can.

I'll fight the monsters as long as I can...

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8 comments:

HMBT said...

Oh Pavel this is a wonderful story...good for you for sticking to a plan and then taking action. Your children will grow-up and have this in their memory bank of that terrible time when thier parents were going through that awful divorce and you worked hard to remain an active and important person in their lives. Making them feel special. When my parents divorced they only thought of themselves and their own pain for so many years that I felt like what am I chopped liver? But the way that you are keeping it together, letting your healing be that of an adult and thinking of your children in the process is truly special. Not the act of buying something, but rather being willing to stay present with them during this rough time...kuddoos to you!

G said...

Oh could I just feel both of your joy in the telling of this story. The truth is these simple joys are everything in the world to them. So sweet.

FelineFrisky said...

Oh, Pavel! How simply wonderful! I keep telling you, you're the greatest! They know it!

I am thrilled for you.

continued blessing, my friend! D :)

Pavel said...

hmbt: Thank you so much, hmbt. It means a lot to me to hear someone who came from the situation my children are in now, who believes that I'm doing what is right by them. It's a scary ride for them and I'm trying to make it as easy for them as possible. It's so easy to feel that I'm letting them down somehow, but I appreciate your words of encouragement.

g: G, it was just such a great moment for me to see him enjoy something like that. It was very exciting and emotional; I know, it was a simple ride on a bike, but at the same time it was much more.

ff: Thank you so much, ff! It was a blessing that I really needed. This past weekend I went without them for three days and I absolutely hate the weekends where I don't have them. Then this happens and it more than made up for the three days... I do hope you're well!

Diesel said...

That's awesome, Pavel. I'm glad you realize the value of these moments.

Amber said...

Oh that's so cute. I'm so glad you were able to do that for your kids, that's fantastic. I know how hard divorce is, so hang in there Pavel!

Chrissy121875 said...

Awwww! Pavel...you're the best! What an excellent story! You're such a great dad and I'm sure your kiddies know it! :)

xo C

Pavel said...

Diesel: Thanks, friend. Kids are pretty cool, aren't they? They keep things in the proper perspective.

Amber: Divorce is crazy, especially when you have children. You now have to try and get along, for the kids sake, with someone you were supposed to get along with when you were married, but couldnt. Go figure!

Chrissy: I love those munkins so much! Now, don't get me wrong; things aren't ALWAYS perfect, but we enjoy life together.